Our Path, Their Path Whose is right ?

How do we know when to intervene with anothers decisions to do this or that when we know that when we did this or that this was the outcome ?

I AM Voice:  Watching a loved one or a peer traverse a path littered with stumbling blocks can be immensely painful. You instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track and share with them the wisdom you have acquired through experience. Yet all human beings have the right to carve their own paths without being unduly influenced by outside interference. To deny them that right is to deny them enlightenment, as true insight cannot be conveyed in lectures. Rather, each individual must earn independence and illumination by making decisions and reflecting upon the consequences of each choice. In allowing others to walk their paths freely, you honor their right to express their humanity in whatever way they see fit. Though you may not agree with or identify with their choices, understand that each person must learn in their own way and at their own pace.

The events and circumstances that shape your lives are unique because each of you is unique. What touches one person deeply may do nothing more than irritate or confound another. Therefore, each of you is drawn to different paths—the paths that will have the most profound effects on your personal evolution. If you feel compelled to intervene when watching another human being make their way slowly and painfully down a difficult path, try to empathize with their need to grow autonomous and make their own way in the world. Should this person ask for your aid, give it freely. You can even tell them about your path or offer advice in a conscious loving way. Otherwise, give them the space they need to make their own mistakes, to enjoy the fruits of their labors, to revel in their triumphs, and to discover their own truths.

The temptation to direct the paths of others is a creature of many origins. Overactive egos can convince you that yours is the one true path or awaken a craving for control within you. But each person is entitled to seek out their path leading from the darkness into the light. When you celebrate those paths and encourage the people navigating them, you not only enjoy the privilege of watching others grow—you also reinforce your dedication to diversity, independence, and individuality.

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